My H tends to direct his anger at me too. I really don't think he has any clue that he does. I feel as if he is acting as if I am at fault for his problems. It sounds like your H is the same way. My H really has a problem expressing himself, he bottles it all up and just stews in his anger. Then it gets poured out on me. So it breaks down to your H has too much on his plate. Maybe he waited too long to start delivering the hay and he realizes his back is against the wall. I am sure it is only adding to his stress level. Do what you can to stay cool. My H was freaking out the other night about packing for his trip. I just made offers to help w/ this and that and asked what I could do to help. This happens every trip and you would think by now H would know what he is doing. I know it is a source of stress so I just try to help difuse. H ended up thanking me for it the next day. Just try not to get wrapped up in your Hs anger because it isn't really you he is angry w/. It is him but you are an easy target.
