In my opinion, what you said you wanted to say would be fine. Everything but the part you WANT to say, that you can't stay in the marriage without ML. That may be true, but tell him the other things first, like how you want to show him your love for him. Wait and see how he responds. If after a period of time (weeks, months, whatever you can handle) nothing changes, THEN tell him you can't keep going the way things are. If you start with that, he may bristle and feel he is getting an ultimatum or "demand" from you--at least that is how my H responds. Just let him know what you want and how you feel, and see if he responds to that before you talk about it as a "make or break" issue. Just my thoughts, but I am really new to this....
