Quote: but MY acts of kindness to him are FOR him... NOT for me... you see what I'm saying here?
There is another way of thinking about this, your acts of kindness to HIM are for YOU!!! Because it is where your happiness comes from, from doing nice things for other people. When he says something P/A he is testing you in a way to prove that you haven't changed, when he gets no response, when you don't take the bait then he has to relate to you in a different way. Might take him a while to figure that out though! The other DB thing you mentioned was about trying to get the cheese into the tunnel and that is what you're working on I think. But you are the mouse not the lab assistant, you have to look in the other tunnels that you haven't checked out.
