Utterly ~ you called me *bright*, that's nice, thanks for that. And, thank you for the most level-headed reply, exactly what I was looking for...
It's been hard, well, duh! But, H definitely fits many psychological schemes. P/A, Emotional Blackmailer, whatever... but I do think most every one exhibits these types of behavior some of the time. It's just hard for me. I'm arrogant and not humble. I need to figure out how not to make these exchanges such big deals for me. I'll say it again. It is hard. We've been doing this crap for 12 years...
Deep Breath
and LostLove, I am a complete brat. I read your posts and I think that's how my H must feel. You're so honest with your anger that I take it personally to the point of defending. That's why I'm less than nice to you sometimes, I'm projecting my H onto you. It's not right, and I should just try compassion ~ like I ask H to do for me. I'll quit it now. I'm really sorry.
