W less angry with me, but not ready for piecing

[bhopeful]

Congrats on the progress! Also, good job on recognizing and being happy with the small positives.

Peace,
B

[Lian]

Hi Lan,

You do not realize how much I am happy for you, it brings hope to my situation that one day I will get a kiss on the lips from my wife.

[fb2]

Hi Lan, Congratulations. I'm sure the kiss made your day! I was wondering how things were with you because you've been very quiet.

[gForce]

From someone that has been helped greatly from your posts, I am really happy for you. Hope this is just one step of many going forward for you.

[Lian]

Lan,

I remember the your support when my wife did not speak to me only barks at me when she needed to communicate. Today she calls me daily at work to talk and she is friendly. She still want divorce but her attitude is much more relax (and kind) than in the first few weeks.

I remember you told me it is gonna happen, thanks

[Lanzo]

From someone that has been helped greatly from your posts, I am really happy for you. Hope this is just one step of many going forward for you.

I remember the your support when my wife did not speak to me only barks at me when she needed to communicate. Today she calls me daily at work to talk and she is friendly. She still want divorce but her attitude is much more relax (and kind) than in the first few weeks.

Do you know, I said to myself I wasn't going to cry anymore through this sitch. but I just read the above and a few tears, tears of happiness rolled down my cheeks.

Thanks guys

Lan

[fb2]

Lan, This serves to remind me that emotions are at least as important as the intellect. I read every one of your posts intently and there's a lot of wisdom in them. But for you I'd have given up DBing a long time ago. Thanks to your support I learned not to react to W's attacks and have made progress in separating the legal from the emotional. You helped to keep me focused and motivated. I'm really missing your posts to my thread to keep me on track and I'm loosing momentum, focus and resolve as a result. But I'm happy you are making excellent progress conquering W.

[Lanzo]

On Saturday morning W initiated some small R talk, which basically lets me know the direction we're moving in.

Friday evening I let W use my credit card to book a train ticket to visit her friend out of town next month. W thanked me, and she thanked me, and she thanked me.

Saturday morning W thanked me again for letting her use my credit card, so I said to her it's no problem cos we're working as a team now, and I walked over and gave her a hug. W held on to me tightly, then said "Us two, we've got a long road ahead of us, do you think we'll make it ?" I said to W if she was committed to the M as was prepared to do whatever it takes then we would make it, and that's the attitude I've taken. W didn't respond she just held on tightly, then she said in the future we'll have to talk more, I just said "True". We just stood locked in this embrace for a good while and W even kissed me on the cheek.

I said to her it's nice being able to embrace like this without D6 interrupting, W agreed and said lets make the most of it. Then we heard a familiar scream from D6, "Urrrgh !!!!, you two kissing, that's disgusting", then she pulled us apart. Oh well it was nice while it lasted.

So patience is a virtue, I'll continue to wait and let W do the talking about the R and not push too much from my side.

Lan

[Kalni]

Hi Lan,

I think your last post is the most positive I've read in while. The way I see it -from a woman's point of view- she was asking reassurance that what she HAS ALREADY DECIDED to do, is going to work out fine. That you are going to be there...And you did just fine. That's all I would need to hear from my H in a situation like yours.

Patience IS a virtue.

Let me add one last thing, you are an amazing person, I admire you very much for the strength, wisedom and the way you are fighting for your family. I am very happy that things seem to be working out for you.

Take care
Kalni

[Lanzo]

Hi Kalni,

she was asking reassurance that what she HAS ALREADY DECIDED to do, is going to work out fine.

I guess I was looking for W to say this to me herself but I guess all her actions are showing this is the way she is going. So I feel reassured as well.

Let me add one last thing, you are an amazing person, I admire you very much for the strength, wisedom and the way you are fighting for your family.

I can't remember anyone calling me amazing so I take this as a massive complement from you.

Thank you


Lanzo