I am so irritated today! But will try not to let it set back my DB efforts.
Last night H told me he had 9-10 more loads of hay to deliver to IA. When he STARTED, he said he had 12 loads and that was 6 weeks ago. He is gone every weekend delivering it and still has that much to do. He made the sale to the guy in IA, and H sold him H's boss' hay, so it HAS to get delivered. Now that H is taking a new job, he has to give notice in 1 week, so he wants to get all 10 loads delivered by next Monday (8 days). He thinks it would be too awkward to be at H's boss' farm after he tells the guy he is quitting.
So anyway he is stressed to the max b/c he is also trying to get some home improvement projects done before he leaves in 3 weeks, so we can get the house looking good enough to sell.So basically he will be moving out in 3 weeks and ridiculously busy until then.
S5 has a bowling b-day party for a friend today at noon. He asked H to go with him weeks ago, and H promised he would. My sister invited me to Beverly Hills w/her for a lawyer convention next weekend, I asked H to watch the kids and he promised he would. Now he has all this hay to deliver.....he was going to take a load this a.m. and be back by noon. So he left the house at 4:30, it is about a 5 hr. drive back and forth and he had to load the hay here and unload it there. H calls at 7:30 all pi$$ed off. Apparently hay is an oversized load, he can't be on the road with it until the sun is up. So he is just now able to leave at 7:30 with no way to get back by noon. He says he will leave the hay loaded and drive it up after the party. But he was going to take a second load after the party. So he is in a foul, foul, mood. He says, I know now your mom will have to take the kids next weekend so I can get more done.
This is where I would usually do some kind of "Told you so" b/c H almost NEVER takes the kids by himself. He will get his mom or mine to watch them when I go someplace so he can get more of his work done. Well, the kids are his too and that irritates me. His parents can't take the kids b/c my SIL is already 6 days past her due date and there will for sure be a baby next weekend for the in-laws to go see. So that leaves my parents.
Trying to be the good person I know I can be, I say, "Okay, if you need my mom to watch the kids next weekend, I'll ask her, all right?" H: NO I AM NOT ALL RIGHT! I HAVE A $HITL@AD OF FU**ING STUFF TO DO AND NO TIME TO DO IT! I'M NOT ALL RIGHT! (furious)
I try to explain that I wasn't asking if he was all right, I was asking if he wanted me to ask my mom for him. But I couldn't even get the sentence out, he was ranting and said he had to go and didn't know how he would ever get caught up.
This is so typical of H, esp. during the A months. Get angry at me for something I had nothing to do with. So I was set just to not speak to him today since he was clearly in a foul, foul mood that had nothing to do with me. But he sent me a text at 8:10
"I am going for it if I get a ticket forgive me"
So he is trying to get a 5 hour drive and unload the hay done in 4 hours. So he will probably be an hour late to the birthday party. Or he will get a ridiculous ticket where they take your license and I have to pick him up someplace. Or he will cause an accident, those giant round hay bales way a ton and he has nine on the back of the trailer.
GRRRR! How do you "DB" that? Kiss his butt when he shows up late to the party or not at all? I get that he has a lot on his plate but he is selective in honoring his business promises and not family ones......
