Cat, Those negative thoughts are to be expected. As long as in general, you are in peace and feel good, you need to focus on that.
My C just gave me some advice the other day on fighting negative thoughts. She said to picture it like dominos. When one negative thought starte, it pushes the other dominos down... and continue down that negative path. She said to picture removing one of those negative dominoes down and replace with a positive for example... when you start to think of yoru H and OW, stop yourself and put in a thought about your kids... or about going out to dinner with friends... or about what you're going to do to make yourself feel good today.
This is good for your and your H. You could not go on the way you were.
Question for you... has your H been sleeping on the couch the entire time you were piecing? Had things gotten better than worse, or did they never really get back on track from the get go. Identifying this might help in the piecing process.
Married 9 years Kids 5 and 6 Bomb 2006 H back and forth for a year M now back on track
