so, he'd rather hurt me with sarcasm than face his own fear?
sounds like nothing should have been said at all
RandyH, You said you gave your W a lot of pressure for sex. My H did this too and then began to feel like my every advance was to "shut him up".
Shall my hugs now be considered given to "shut him up", as well? Can't you see how this completely invalidates me?
See, here... it doesn't matter what I feel. It matters what H feels. Here, H's feelings are more important to him than mine. All well and good, I suppose, but MY acts of kindness to him are FOR him... NOT for me... you see what I'm saying here?
Listen, too... I'm not saying H is like this all the time, it's just that there are moments. I'd like to learn how to deal with these moments, and I'd like H to learn to also.
