Today I called W's teacher friend to try to apologize for the grief my W has caused to her life. After I said hello, I received quite an earful from her with profanity about how she wants my family out of her life. After she calmed down, she explained that my W has used her and was sickened by the infidelity and lies that W has done. She felt sympathy for me, but really does not want anything to do with my W or family ever again. She assured me that I am going to come out of this ok. I told her that I always respected her as a teacher (she was S7's pre-K teacher) and that I could not explain what happened with my W in the last year.
I suspect W's job is on the line as this is a senior teacher that has a lot of pull with the principle. They could say that they cant have a preschool where the employees have problems with one another and that the junior less experienced employee (W) should be terminated.
W called me when the kids and I were at dinner tonight. I told her that the kids and I had fun at the science museum today and then told her that I talked with her teacher friend and her teacher friend is very angry at her. W freaked out at me calling her and said she was not going to sleep tonight. She wanted to know what I said to her friend and I said that I hardly said anything as her friend layed it all out for me. I told W that it was pimarily her that the friend was so angry at and that I understood how her friend felt - backstabbed.
I am going to next suggest to W that she should not call or talk to her teacher friend right now. She will need to write a very very sincere letter of apology and not have anyone help her.
I guess my biggest worry now is that if W loses her job that it will affect me in the D negotiations. However, she is employable and lost her job after the D papers have been filed so I cant see how she can say she should get spousal support.
Lesson for life - dont live with secrets and lies - bad karma most likely will occur.
I still live my life by 11 and a half of the 12 boy scout laws...
Trustworthy Loyal Helpful Friendly Courteous Kind Obediant Cheerful Thrifty Brave Clean Reverent - I obey part of as I respect the beliefs of others, but am not religious myself.
