Looking backward but only to move forward SEVEN

[cat03]

cI know my sitch isn't comparable to so many on the boards [/quote]
Hon, you dont' have to be a horror story to want some support. Being a fist time parent is very draining, it's brand new spanking ground and we learn as we go.

I am unable to seem to swing the mom-hood (she's almost 2!) and the wife-hood and the person-hood.

it's tricky and hard. Personally, I made the mistake of making lots of assumptions "oh, H will understand that I'm too tired or not have time for him, etc etc)
I can only offer those basic pointers you get everywhere: make sure you guys have time alone without baby talk, your bedroom shouldn't have any baby toys in it, even if you really can't afford it try and get a sitter weekly/byweekly to go out.
Do something just for yourself (workout class/reading group,etc)
Dress nice and put on make up, stay away from baggy sweats :P