I guess if I'm honest with myself I'd have to admit that I still feel responsible for the old sex life
I think some people are intrinsically HD or LD but most people become one or the other in the context of their relationship. I'm pretty HD in my R but I'd become ND in a New York Minute if I were married to, say, Dom R or Cemar. And I'd be responsible for 50% of that. LD's are usually the designated "patients" (as in, the person that needs fixing) because it's so darn easy to see what they're not doing. What the HDs are not doing is usually harder to pinpoint. But it's pretty much always something. That you're stretching yourself, and cac is stretching himself, to meet halfway is great. It's more than most couples accomplish. You should be pround of yourself.
