Need some advice. I sent a limit contact letter as per RCR's post to my H. He emailed back asking if I want to hire the account we need to proceed with the divorce. Answer? Ignore?
Thanks I needed that. Seemed like things were going so well there for a while. Now I wonder if it was too much for him, I blew it, or just part of the deal.
I think him being in my life so much set me back and I got overly hopeful. In MC it was so obvious that he was unhappy to be there and holding on to OW. Guess I should have backed off even more. I don't know if he will ever let OW go.
Your H's email was just reaction. IMO, he is still very connected to you and extremely confused....he doesn't know what he wants and that includes the D. He thinks you are pushing him away...now he is pushing back.
I wouldn't really spend a whole lot of energy worrying about this. Trying to figure out what to do with someone going through a MLC seems like a crap shoot anyway. I hope that doesn't sound negative because that wasn't my intent. I understand and believe in the DB principals...I just mean that in the grand scheme of things, I am not sure how much micro-managing our every move makes in the end. Your energy would be better spent trying to figure out how to make YOU happy.
No doubt you are right. He wants me in his life, but wants the OW too. I have a hard time with that as it is so gross to me on some very basic level. I think the best thing may be to do nothing.
