Your H's email was just reaction. IMO, he is still very connected to you and extremely confused....he doesn't know what he wants and that includes the D. He thinks you are pushing him away...now he is pushing back.
I wouldn't really spend a whole lot of energy worrying about this. Trying to figure out what to do with someone going through a MLC seems like a crap shoot anyway. I hope that doesn't sound negative because that wasn't my intent. I understand and believe in the DB principals...I just mean that in the grand scheme of things, I am not sure how much micro-managing our every move makes in the end. Your energy would be better spent trying to figure out how to make YOU happy.
