Hey buddy, I swear your R and mine are sooo close, I mean aside from the talking about the OM. Yes everything "seems" fine again side form not being physical... Her attitude has changed so much. She is becoming a good friend....But I don't want to have a live in friend... I know what you are talking about feeling really torn right now. And being on the cusp of something. I think we are getting all of our ducks in order, what I mean to say is that if we put our foot down months ago when our spouses were DEEP in the fog, they would have had no problem leaving us. But.... My W now talks about the future... Like she is planning on being around for a long time. I on the other hand have put off all of the projects around the house because I don't know how much longer we will be here. If we D we HAVE to sell the house at a loss...Like I said If we made our W make a choice back then it would most likely be over by now.. What we have done by waiting and proving we are not needy has made them feel a little too secure... Remember how you felt when you first found out your marriage was probably over??? Panicked, desperate, willing to do anything???? Well I am hoping that soon you and I can reverse this role... We have grown strong, we have grown independent, and we have grown horny..... (Sorry I had to throw that in). Now that Our W think they are standing on solid ground it will be time for you and me to pull the rug out from under them... I do not mean this in a bad way. What I mean is now is the time for them to see what they will be loosing... We have done good MMc..We did not throw their evil spew back at them. We have not given them any reason to confirm their past issues they had with us... Don't know about you but I have / had enough evidence to destroy two families. But I did not use it. I did not want to lower myself to the OM level. (Yet).Soon buddy soon we will need to take our lives back. Take our families back... If not I think we are ready to move on... I know I am.....
Dr love
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
