NikB #24

[NikB]

Hey all - thanks for posting!

OT
Still mulling over your posts - thank you again for your thoughts.

ST
On the ICs, yep, I think seeing a bad one is even more damaging than not seeing one at all. I had hoped to eventually find one on my insurance list that would be good, but lack of success there is leading me not to go at all which isn't good! Even if I can only afford once a month or something that would be better to get a good one.

Michelle
If you ever do get to the point of needing an MC again I can recommend a really good one for ya! Expensive ($115/session) but she is excellent. Michele Weiner-Davis (the writer of DR) actually recommended her to me when I asked for a recommendation in my area. Her focus isn't exactly a DB/DR type of approach - but she's very much solution oriented, focus on the future, actual techniques to implement in your life, etc. And she got my H to talk which is a monumental feat all on its own!

Hope your final went well this morning. It was so great to see you last night, sorry we didn't get to visit more!! I had a blast but kept feeling like I didn't get enough time to hang out with everyone individually (always the way with parties, though). Hope you had fun! Too bad you had to leave for finals.. we broke out the disco ball and dance music around 11:00 or so.. . Only a handful of people were still here at that point but we had fun.

Oh, and I REALLY hope "K-Fed" didn't freak you out too much. He's nuts, as I'm sure you could tell , but he's harmless. Believe it or not that was him being relatively mellow. Totally funny, he and H got back from wherever they went at 2:30 AM and he was STILL talking about you, but then said "But damn, she kept flashin' that ring at me like some kinda 'I'm married' beacon so I guess that's not going anywhere." (like it was anyway right??? ). If you read my post about last weekend and the guy who was out with the girls and they were all talking about cheating (meanwhile his GF was at home waiting for him) - I'm sure it will come as no surprise, that was the same guy!!

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Had a lot of fun at the party last night!! I was getting all antsy/nervous around 4:00 or so because I always get the "what if no one shows up" jitters. The organizer came about an hour early and people started arriving even BEFORE the official 7:00 start time though so that was cool. H decided to stick around for awhile and I was kinda nervous how that would go. A few people were visibly very surprised to hear my introduce "my H, [name]" - shook his hand while giving me an "oh really???" kinda look. They all or mostly know I'm married but I think since no one's ever seen him and I rarely talk about him they weren't too sure what was going on (these groups are my refuge from all the 'stuff' so don't talk about it a lot).

I think around 20 people showed up - perfect!! Good sized group so there are lots of different people to talk to, but not so many that it's packed in the house. I think H was rather surprised how many guys showed up. He was actually doing pretty good for awhile - being fairly social and stuff, and then all of a sudden just looked VERY uncomfortable. Came over and told me "This is too weird for me" and went to the neighbor's house for awhile. I actually kinda had more fun after he left - before that I was anxious and trying to help him feel "included" and such (especially when he started getting quiet). Was kinda proud of myself though because I only tried to "fix" it for a little while, then realized, it was a very friendly group and no one was excluding him - he was doing it himself, so not my job to worry about it!

He came back after awhile but mostly stayed out in the garage - some of the guys from the party went out to check out his car and stuff so that was pretty cool. Then his friend (now known as "K-Fed") came in and asked me if he could get a beer. I probably should've just gotten it for him but I was on my way to do something else so I told him sure and he could go get it - which required him to go through the whole crowd in the bar/game room area. I have no idea what he said to them but I know they were all wondering who the heck this guy was! He stopped and talked to a few of us on his way back out the garage and one of the women in the game room yelled "Hey K-Fed" to him (he looks somewhat like Kevin Federline) then they all kind of cheered at him, it was hilarious!! Then he decided he REAALLLY liked Michelle (as noted above). Got a little obnoxious but not TOO bad (I hope...). Later in the evening when it was just the small group of us left he was the talk of the party, it was pretty funny. A few people thought he was H's SON!! This is one of the guys he hangs out with all the time when he's in "teenybopper" mode, so that definitely made me laugh.

Had a lot of fun with the smaller group that stayed later too - just nice to be able to talk to everyone and not be pulled too many directions! Most of them left around midnight but one other friend stayed til 2:15 or so - was really nice to catch up with her.

They "nominated" me to host another party soon so I may just do that!

Gotta go clean now.. .. but hope everyone's having a good Saturday!