Her worst nightmare is coming down the track at an amazing pace. OM is still around as of this morning, he answered the phone when I called. She hates the fact that I am seeing someone and it seems as though she is trying to come around the house alot more, do things around here to prove her worth to me. She said as much last night during our discussion, she wanted me to validate that she was worthy of being in my house.........I wouldn't do it. She then turned the conversation into a poor STBX pity party, life is very hard for her, I told her that she chose that life and it's hers to live. At one point my son who was eavesdropping began to cry, she pointed to him and said "look at what you are doing to him" I told her that this was another choice she made and it can't be reflected onto me. I was very blunt with her when I told her this is all a result of her adultry and the D that is approaching.
She is seeing what D will be like and it isn't at all what she thought it would be.
MMF,
She does have her own place. Its a basement suite in a ghetto part of town. I see she is trying to reconnect with me a little, for example she called my cell out of the blue to see how my job is going these days. This house is her sanctuary from the mess she's created, I can see that she is thinking she can come back to me and she seems to be trying to do so. She is also trying to interfere with my new R, she "planted" a bra and panties in my laundry possibly hoping that GF would find them. When I found them I threw them into the garbage, called her and told her that if she ever did that again I would bring them to OM and let him figure out how I got them.
I am finally forcing the issue at this point, no more mister nice guy. DB is over for me and I am simply doing what needs to be done at this point. I was told by a close friend who is D (same thing happened to him) that if any interaction with STBX feels wrong I shouldn't do it. I have been following that advice and I have been feeling better about things as a result.
