Originally Posted By: mrs.cac4
Dom,

I know you are trying to help, but at this point, I don't think that entertaining such an extreme hypothetical scenario is the way to go. I spend too much time worrying about the what-ifs and not enjoying the what IS. ...



Hmm. sorry. you surprised me.
I didnt think it would be a hypothetical situation that would actually require much deliberation on your part. I thought that you would have a clear answer in your heart, and that would give you comfort in the present.

If you cant look at the situation of,

"If next month, you had to undergo a medically required hysterectomy, and your SD dropped to zero...",

and know for certain, that yes you would still have sexual relations with your H, even though there was no biological desire on your side.... then seems like you are indeed still "suffering" from something. Something that is detrimental to your marriage.


Being "low drive", isnt a problem to marriages in and of itself, in my opinion. The real problem, is an accompanying attitude of, "I'm not in the mood so you're not getting anything, in any way, any how".

Unlike your original description of LDW being like a disease of affliction, that you "recover from".... that problem is not a "disease". It's a choice.


Last edited by Dom R; 02/02/08 09:05 PM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle