WAW....now the LBS

[HOPEFULinCALI]

Sandi,

You said that your husband put emotional distance between the two of you. Are you closer now? My husband and I are friends, but I still feel so much distance between the two of us. I have always been the talker between the two of us so I am used to carrying the conversations, but it is exhausting for even me. It takes some time for him to warm up to me everytime I see him and sometimes it is like pulling teeth trying to get him to engage and joke around. How do I get us closer if he is resistant to it? I am seriously contemplating the intensive with Michelle.

I am shocked how many therapists are not pro-marriage. For a short time I stopped seeing the therapist we saw together, but I was so disappointed by the other therapists I found, including a Christian counselor, that I am back with our original therapists. I think that she is a good individual counselor, but couples is not her strength, she is too passive for it. One Ph.D I saw made a whole session out of trying to convince me that my marriage was over and that I needed to move on. Needless to say that was our last session.

I agree with your assertion of what the LBS is feeling. I think it even applies to me as a WAW. When I walked away there wasn't much he could do immediately to change my mind because I had built up a wall and emotionally distanced myself to protect myself from the hurt and disappointment.

Any thoughts? How are things with you?