One other thought. I really dislike her friend 'P' who, as you may recall, came over last weekend and stayed to 'support' W. Well, she hasn't said anything about her coming this weekend but I have a dilemma. Since, in the end, this is MY house, I feel I have the right to say that I don't want her 'divorce friendly' friends coming to stay. I would prefer she go stay with THEM instead.
Right? Wrong? Controlling? Little Boy?
Wrong, controlling, and little boy in my opinion. Mostly because of two things.
First, and I could be wrong here, but the house belongs to both of you, does it not? I'm assuming if you've been married for some time that you bought the house as a married couple and have treated it as joint property during the marriage. If I'm off base here, it's strictly out of ignorance with the history of your sitch Frank, and I apologize.
I realize you're handling the finances, but I think a power move like this just because you pay the bills is a bit over the top.
Secondly, the better move in my opinion is to have a short conversation with her about your feelings regarding friends who are/have not been friendly to the marriage. Keep it cool, appeal to her sensitivity during this difficult time.
Just my opinion since you asked.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
