All Hope is lost/Help - Part 2

[Evie]

Thanks Jen - your advice is really sound.

I have been thinking all day about a word that Seek mentioned - 'control'. I think I have definiately being way too controlling in the past. I need to drop this and think more about my interactions being more positive and I don't have any expectations from this holiday, i'd rather not be going. I guess im afraid that if I have made any progress, then it may get undone this week?

You and seek have given good advice on 'how' to ask for what i'd like, rather than telling H what I want.

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The attitude I put over was "well, while you make up your mind what you want to do I'm going to enjoy myself, and if you're daft enough to D me then it's your loss!". I still firmly believe that to this day - if my H walks, his loss. I'm pretty darned wonderful and a darned good wife to him. That confident stance can be very attractive to men too....

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I like this, i'm kind of in this frame of mind atm, although i'm concious that i could have being controlling. I hope I come across as more confident and appealing to H. Do you think they are aware of our changes?

Thanks for reading.

X Eve