I am not so much interested in gathering more "intel" for the sake of the M, as I am in protecting myself and my relationship with my S's in a custody fight.
Nothing I have said or done in the last seven months have really averted my W from her course. Her original plan was to walk-away with my S's, take up residence with the OM east of this area, and replace me as my children's father. She was so convinced she knew my heart that she actually believed I would not only not fight her but welcome the splitting up of my family. When I proved to have a different heart on the matter, however, she merely regrouped, recalculated her course ever so much, but nevertheless re-plotted her course towards her goals.
W's anger over these intervening months has been with me because she sees me as her chief obstacle to her "chance for happiness." In the beginning she thought her only obstacle was time -- the state's required 12-month separation period before the granting of a D. But with me having stated my opposition to D and for the hope of rebuilding the M, her "waiting out the clock" has turned into a very infuriating ordeal for her.
Furthermore, with me no longer actively talking about saving the M, she still sees me not budging on remaining to be the father of our two S's and in a very active role. This too is being seen by her as a serious obstacle to her desires and goals, so her anger and hostility continue unabated.
I have to come to grips that my W is waging a covert war against me, and I cannot take this lying down anymore.
I am prepared to hire an atty. The one I last spoke with advised me that to thwart any claim to alimony it would be best that I had proof of the PA, although the circumstantial evidence is usually enough.
I really am feeling that in order to get my W to recognize she's just not going to cake-walk all over me, I need to be prepared to lower the boom on her, if it proves necessary. No, I cannot change her behavior, but I can do what I can to back her off some, for the sake of my kids.
