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#1345543 02/02/08 03:12 PM
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Originally Posted By: BritInOH
Hi Lizzy!

Hope everything is okay - Not seen you around for a few days!!


Hi Brit! Thanks for noticing. My bosses brother died last weekend so I was running the place this week and it was very stressful at work. Tuesday I was out late for the funeral, Wed. we got haircuts and Thurs. was one of the worst days ever at work. I actually had a major meltdown after work and asked H if it was ok if I stayed home and watched a movie upstairs. It was supposed to be his night w/ Ds. I was hoping for a hug our some show of support but got none. I ended up dragging myself out of bed after he invited me down for dinner that he made. Then I helped him w/ laundry and getting things ready for his trip. It was a very overwhelming day and I was crying when H left which I knew was horrible. I let an ILY slip and I think I saw him cring. After H left I sent a text that I knew I shouldn't and I would probably regret because it would undo some DBing. We actually ended up sending a few back and forth and seemed to give me some signs of hope. In the morning H thanked me for helping him the night before.

H left lastnight for CA and is there for the week. He did send a text when he got there but we haven't heard from him yet today. It is 7 in the morning there, but I would assume H is up already. At least I know I have a weekend I can relax and do what I want when I want. Tonight I'm going to a reverse raffle and plan to have fun. I need to do something fun w/ Ds tomorrow and will probably take them shopping today.


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Kalni #1345550 02/02/08 03:18 PM
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Originally Posted By: Kalni
Hey Lizzy,

How is your hair? Did he notice the change (if you had one).I am changing the color today...

Good that you are going to the concert. I din't quite get it though, why you were asking him if he was OK with you going with your boss. Did I miss something? By the way who is the artist you are going (curious).

Kalni


Of course H didn't notice my hair. I did get a different style and asked how it looked. No feedback. Color me surprised. I did recieve a ton of positive feedback at work so at least I know it looks good. I even heard yesterday how good I looked in my jeans.

The reason I asked H if it was OK to go to the concert was I never got a firm answer from him. H was going to look into it. I wanted to make sure H had not decided to go. Anyway it is Kenny Chesney and we are going to be in a suite at the stadium. Should be a wild time.


Me: 41
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lizzy #1345580 02/02/08 03:55 PM
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So H ended up calling about 7:30 CA time and sounded really good for him. I asked how his flight was and he said long and the movie wasn't one H was interested in. Asked if he was able to get a good nights sleep but H said not really. Told him about our morning and H said I should do something w/ the Ds. Kind of ironic that H is telling me that.


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lizzy #1346162 02/03/08 10:04 AM
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Hi Lizzy,

I hope you are having a good time with your Ds and relaxing.

Well, my H didn't notice my color change either. Maybe if instead of blond (from brunette) I should try purple, or orange or something more noticable. Who cares, I feel good...

Take care,
Kalni


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Ds and I had a pretty relaxing day. H did send us some pics of the sights where he is. I thought that was pretty $hitty as he always complains the trips are all business no fun blah, blah, blah. Glad he got to go see something but not sure of his motive for sending the pics. Almost like he was rubbing in that he was there and we are in the middle of winter. I am sure I'm being overly sensitive. Anyway when I let him know D10 wasn't enjoying the pics he said it was is only freetime for the trip.

I went to the reverse raffle by myself lastnight. I was dreading going in. A good friend was there but she was working it and didn't sit down. Other friends that I would normally sit w/ didn't go. I did get invited to sit with some people I knew and met a new couple. Anyway I had a lot of fun. I only planned to stay for a couple of hours, but the raffle got started late. It was funny because I told the Ds I was only staying a couple of hours so I sent them a text asking permission to stay longer.

H did call the Ds and he called and left a msg on my phone. He said he might talk to me later so I didn't call back. Did send him a text to let him know we were home and I had fun. No response to that though.


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lizzy #1346219 02/03/08 02:39 PM
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Hi Lizzy,
good for you!It's great that you are having fun with Ds and without. Forget the picts. There are 2 ways to think of that, the one is that he was trying to rub it in to you as you said, the other way would be to think that he wanted you guys to have an idea about what he is seeing, doing, just sharing with you. I'd stick to that.

Kalni


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Kalni #1346312 02/03/08 04:22 PM
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Lizzy,
I agree with Kalni. Maybe he was trying to "include" you in his trip? At least, to share with you what he was up to. Kind of reaching out in a way. I would take it that way, anyway. Trying to be more glass-half-full these days.

And he left you a message last night other than talking to the Ds, which shows he is thinking of YOU, not just them. So that sounds good, too....


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Originally Posted By: BobbiJo
Lizzy,
I agree with Kalni. Maybe he was trying to "include" you in his trip? At least, to share with you what he was up to. Kind of reaching out in a way. I would take it that way, anyway. Trying to be more glass-half-full these days.

And he left you a message last night other than talking to the Ds, which shows he is thinking of YOU, not just them. So that sounds good, too....


Thanks girls! I'm going to take your suggestions as being right. It would be a 180 for H. #1 I should be happy he got out and saw some sights because that isn't like him. #2 I should be happy he shared them with us. #3 He didn't have to call me after he talked to Ds as he did know we weren't together.


D15 has a drama work session this afternoon so I think I'll take D10 to the zoo. Yes it is winter in Cleveland, but we will probably just visit the rainforest building. Then I can send H a few pics of D which he seems to enjoy getting. It will also make Ds week.


Me: 41
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M: 19yrs.
Bomb: June 2007
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lizzy #1346531 02/03/08 09:49 PM
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You will be proud of me BobbiJo and Kalni. My first contact w/ him today was a text he sent just after noon saying "Its raining." I sent one back saying "Sorry. I'm glad you got to get out and enjoy the sights yesterday." I thought I might make up for not being very enthused about his pics yesterday. A few minutes later H called to "check in" and see what our plans were. Told him about drama and the zoo. D didn't want to go to the zoo though. We ended up going to a pottery place to paint. That is another of Ds favorite activities but she wasn't really into it today either. I think she is coming down w/ something as she has been kind of grouchy today. H did say he would probably call later. We will see if he can fit it in w/ the big game tonight.


Me: 41
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M: 19yrs.
Bomb: June 2007
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lizzy #1346618 02/04/08 12:25 AM
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Yay Lizzy!

So he texted you AND called? And it isn't like he had a dire need to inform you that it was raining ;\) , sounds like he was just reaching out....

Very cool. Hope your D doesn't wind up getting sick. Both of my kiddos were sick last week and it stinks!


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