Well, I read your stitch and I don't want to be the one to bring you down farther than you are but I started having a gut feeling about things way before I go to the post about her new "room mate" being a male. It was no surprise to me. What do you know about this man? How many bedrooms does the place have and where do the boys sleep when they are there?
I certainly don't want to hurt you more, sweetie, but I think she is definately on the prowl. When she took that wedding ring off that was a red flag right there IMHO. Yes, it does certainly sound as though she is in MLC. I was suspicious that she was sleeping at another man's place when you said she was staying at a "friends" place at night and then returning home before the boys got up in the mornings. I felt like (by what I was reading in your posts and being a suspicious female here) that she was just slowly breaking the ice and that she had her eye on another man or else was already sleeping with him. I know....another arrow through your heart. I'm sorry sweetie.
The man at the church....was he a member or a visitor that day she wanted you to be sure you saw the attention she was giving him (and that was exactly what she was doing!) That was her way of telling you that she was free (in her mind) and could flirt with who ever she wanted to.
I am surprised that you can handle her sharing a place with another man. I know there isn't much you can do about it other than what you are doing now, but don't stick your head in the sand to far down protecting your poor broken heart. What does your DB counselor think about this?
After reading your stitch on the other forum and getting a better idea of what is going on, I am wondering about all of this. You see, for a woman who says she left b/c she needed your affection and attention and that you neglected her for 6 months....isn't this a little extreme? Why wouldn't she want to stay home, since you saw your mistake and was willing to correct it? You want to give her that attention and affection, so why move out?
I can understand a woman that has gone a long time in that type of stitch b/c I was there myself. But mine was a lot longer than 6 months. She must have really gotten the WAW signs that Michelle talks about on the board. But again, I agree with you about the red flags going up about showing her state of being "available" (even though she isn't legally available) with the shirt that said "sinful".....wow, can't be much more plain than that without wearing a shirt that has her phone number on it.
Bryan, you are doing a wonderful job, sweetie. However, I think this road is going to be a lot longer than it may have seemed in the beginning. I think she is wanting to taste the single life, for sure. Are you going to be able to handle that?
I am curious as to why she is attending MC with you. Was it her idea or did she just agree to go with you? Does the DB coach think this is good that you two go together to C?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
