When we watched it, we were often in bed together naked and touching each other and alternately kissing and looking. That's a little different than sitting in separate chairs in the living room I think. cac says it's really no different because the crux of the matter is that I needed it.
I think cuddling and watching porn would be fine sometimes and I think non-cuddly sex is fine sometimes. It was just the combination that was cr*p in my book. My mother wasn't cuddly but my father was. Just about every evening of my early childhood I would either cuddle in a chair with him or in a beanbag with one of my sisters. My earliest memory is of me running up and down a hallway between the bedrooms of my Grandmother and my Great-Grandmother because they both wanted to cuddle with me. I was my Grandmother's pet and she would rock me to sleep when I was really too old for it. I breastfed and cuddled both my kids. My son isn't very cuddly as an adult but he always says "Hug,Mom" when he sees me and gives me one. My D16 is still very cuddly and we will still snuggle and watch TV together on occasion.
FSG wasn't even allowed to have stuffed animals when he was a kid. We were talking about horror movies and I asked him if he was ever afraid that his teddy bear would come to life and he started laughing and said "No teddy bears in the hood." It's sooooo cute when these big tough city boys cuddle with me that I can't even stand it.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
