Confusion of a WAW (Thread 6)

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I think that you should make yourself available when your W wants you, but stop the pursuing of asking her to do stuff. This will give you some extra space while still attending to some of her needs. Take any pressure that she might be feeling from you away. It sounds like she has enough on her plate right now and doesn't need added pressure from you.

I hope you're happier once I'm back in my own place

This is a very pressure filled and pursuing statement. Were you trying to make her feel guilty? I can totally understand if you were, but I'm surprised that it didn't blow up in your face. That kind of thing would not go over well with my W. I'm glad that it didn't for you though.

Your W seems to be in a pretty fragile state right now, so I don't think that you should completely shut her out. You do need time for yourself to GAL though. I don't think that I ever read about you doing much for yourself. Your needs always seem to take a back burner to the rest. That's not healthy and not a long term plan. Of course, I only know what you are writing here, so things are probably different than they seem.