Lill is so right that your H is the only person that can sort it. I should have added that as a caveat to my post. I was the one who sought help when I was ready.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
