I 've been following your sitch and today I felt I had to tell you this : Do not feel guilty about your ILs. You are not doing this to them. Somebody else is. He should deal with it. You have a lot in your hands right now. I felt exactly the same way you do about your MIL only for me it was the SIL, and FIL. We were pretty close and now they are "gone". I guess they are feeling weird and awkward. But I can't forgive them for putting their well being in priority and not supporting me and the kids at this rough time.
