horrible example speaking: no, it wouldn't be heartless, it would be putting his W's feelings first and reinstating her, showing her respect. I don't loose sleep by the fact that ow is crushed because my H broke it off with her, it was a disease ridden R that never had to happen, and I pray my H has the spine to cut all contact with her soon and let her move on, until then, we'll remain S.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.