, but accept that my W will make her own choices about the M, and that it's not a reflection on me or my failure
I just love this too (oh, hi Matilda!! i'm waving wildly on your direction). It is hard not to take it personally or feel rejected, but what you say is true, it will be their inability to buckle up and fight tooth and nail for the M, not about us.
I will now have to get that book you are reading, I know it is a classic and have been curious about it for a long time.
I'm also "reading' a book on cd during my commute, it is called "if I end up missing or dead" a true -i think- story about 2 sisters, one of them ending up dissapearing and killed by her scumbucket H. The narrating sister tells their story, which is just nothing short of amazing, of a terrible childhood with a father who stopped short of raping them during their whole life, through her 3 abusive Rs... to being the "OW" and how deceptive that R was, how they couldnt' trust each other. She feels so inadequate and wants to please her H, so far gone is her self steem that she ends up thinking "if I were perfect I bet he'd love me more", and kept sustaining abuse and excusing it to keep the peace...and him.
I tried to find your other threads, tryign to understand where you stand, your W didn't use to live with you, now she does but sleeps in a different room?. Reminds me of the past 6mths, when my H was sleeping downstairs. You sound like a top notch guy, (any guy who cooks gets brownie points in my book )
About dancing, the trick is to let go, to dance like no one is watching One day you have to try a zumba class, I'm still dancing here and there remembering my session from yesterday.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
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