mrs. cac, I also was never hugged or cuddled as a child. In fact, I have a clear memory of being 4 or 5 (I know because of where we lived) and I had been in the habit of spontaneously running up to my mother and saying "I love you" and wanting a hug. On this one occasion I realized that she never responded with a hug and also never said ILY back. So I stopped both those behaviors. At that age. The first time my mother said ILY to me was on the phone; I was about 40. I was a stubborn little girl... but even then, I could only hit my head against a brick wall for so long. (My father and I had two or three rewarding emotional encounters during my life.) /hijack
Originally Posted By: mrs cac to mojo
OK, since you specifically mentioned me, (and he obviously was referring to himself) I'm going with full disclosure.
Just a suggestion (you probably know this, but I just wanted to reinforce): don't let yourself be pressured into responding if you don't want to. You don't owe anyone here any explanation or clarification of anything. It's fine that you disclosed... I'm just saying don't ever do it because you've been baited or provoked. Just if you want to, kwim?
