Why is it that the later it gets the better I feel? A few hours ago I was ready to pass out, now I've got some life! Go figure. I just wanted to mention that there are some positives about today. W is actually willing to concede that our separation has had some effect on our kids. It means that she is now able to let down the walls that she had put up previously. Some of you may remember that W and I had a huge blowout over her inability to even consider that our D's behaviour may have been influenced by our separation. She would also not acknowledge that kids go through "stages" and would attack D as "that is just the way she is", she actually said today that D may be going through a stage. This bizarre use of denial used to blow my mind because we are both in the counselling profession! How could any sane person, especially one who works in the field of human behaviour, refuse to believe that a separation might affect the kids, but that was W's view. So I see this change as a positive thing! I had been dreading talking to her at work as I didn't feel well and W usually goes ballistic about school issues, so it was nice to hear her being level headed and ready to look at things she previously wasn't. I thanked her for calling and letting me know what was going on. You know, I just can't imagine what it must be like to know your kids are going through this pain because YOU decided to have an A and NOT work on your M. Yes, I'd rather be me.
