Stumped, Yes he did, he said that at my age it would not pay off, at the time I was 32. He figured that we would end up paying about 20k for something that I would never go after. Well I had and have a solid plan, computer administration, with marketing classes thrown in there for a little bit of an added punch for employablity. So I think that all he heard was the price tag for me to go back and he would then have to make some sacrifices.
OK to clarify something to the others, H had an affair 4 years ago, so no I was not justifying having an A because he would not let me go back to school. You see the discussion about me going back to school was before he had his A. I shut down to him because of the rejection and objection to the thought of me going back to school to possibly out earn him.
Choc, I guess part of it is not knowing how to end it. I have tried several times before to end things and for what ever reason things just kept going on. I have talked to the OM over the last week or so but have not seen him since last Friday night. I have not replied to any e-mails that he has sent, etc. I have set up a new email account and I am planing on deleting the other one that I have that he knows, along with my myspace account that will be deleted also.
I don't feel justified in having an A. I know what it did to me to find out about H's A, wow was that a horrible time. I think H does suspect something is going on just because he is reacting about the same that I did when he would go out with OW, as friends.
I do think having a child has made me rethink what I am doing and for what reasons that I am doing it.
My C says that I need to set a date for it to end and I have. As I said before I will do it before the end of the week. It's actually looking like Wednesday, the day after the concert. No we are not going together, I got H to the concert for Christmas and OM desided to get tickets only after I told him that I had them for H.
Also my C has given me something to think about. Why OM is getting in to R with people that he can not have or that are hard on him. Previous R of his was a bit rough, girl was bi-polar and would not always take the meds. But he knew what he was getting into with me from the start, I am married. I know that I was selfish about it all and I am sorry about that to both H and OM, and heck even to D.
