I agree with MrsH. Or at least I think it was her.
There is a whole lot of insecurity going on here. With the OW for not letting H out of her sight so he can visit his kids alone. With H for trying to talk your kids into liking OW.
What's next? Your H telling your D that he will buy her some candy if she likes OW?
Give me a break.
Sounds like the only one who is thinking rationally is your D (and, of course, you). When she can voice her emotions like she did and your H continues with his selfish crap......
Poor kid.
Hang in there, Shades! You guys are in my thoughts!