OK, since you specifically mentioned me, (and he obviously was referring to himself) I'm going with full disclosure.
When we watched it, we were often in bed together naked and touching each other and alternately kissing and looking. That's a little different than sitting in separate chairs in the living room I think. cac says it's really no different because the crux of the matter is that I needed it.
I admit I used it because I/we had issues and it helped me. I no longer use it or need it now that I'm a MDW (Moderate Drive Wife).
I'm not a non-cuddler, but I can cuddle or not after sex. I've been thinking about the cuddling thing and I have no memories of being cuddled by either parent or my only grandmother. I just don't remember being hugged as a child and when my mother hugs me now it feels odd and I find myself just waiting until she lets go. I love to hug cac, although I prefer it when he's showered because of the smoking, and I love to hug S4 which I do every single day numerous times a day.
I'm sure it sounds bad, but at the time I believed that the important thing was that we had sex and I did what I had to do. For 5 years I was on the pill and ADs and I had zero drive and couldn't O at all. Now I understand the desire and LL part of it. My intentions were good but the method wasn't so good.
