BFM, I am curious about something. I don't know if FW would have any insight here or not. H and I have little to no contact and have for several months. My S32 was diagnosed with cancer last year. H was devastated and was going to drive me to where he was to be treated but OW had a fit and he lashed out at me and told me awful things. He did bring our youngest S down there later when he found out that S32 had surgery and was beginning treatment.
I just got back from being with S32 while he had some pretty intense surgery (hopefully the last of the treatment). I didn't tell H about it before hand and just sent an email update along with other friends and family. I had to leave before S32 was discharged from the hospital. His wife was unable to join him and I was very concerned about leaving S32 there alone.
My MIL and FIL called me and told me that they were coming up to spend some time with him but wouldn't be able to come until 2 or 3 days after I left. H has ignored my S32's condition and not contacted him in any way for the past year. H saw S32, DIL, and 2GSs briefly at Christmas at S18's basketball game. First contact in over a year. When I got home, S20 called from college and said I have some strange news about Dad. He is leaving tomorrow to be with S32 until Grandpa and Grandma get there. S20 and I were shocked and H went without OW, too.
Does this mean anything? I prayed all the way home from being with my S32 that I would receive some kind of sign that H will eventually be returning home to us. This happened the day I got home. Then that night I dreamed that H came home and OW (who we socialized with when we were together and she was still with her H). I believe those were the signs I ask for but I was just curious as to FW's thoughts. Sorry for the highjack. I know that he can't really tell me what H is thinking but any input will be appreciated.
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
