Hanging on to what I believe in!

[AliSuddenly]

Hi BA.. I was just thinking.. I dont know where you're based, but if its the same in the US as here.. sounds like your H needs to be signed off work for a couple of weeks. He sounds very depressed and under massive pressure. You just cant keep going under those cicumstances. Rather than quit his job, can he get a doctors note? Will he not go to the docs? To say "He said I should put a gun to his head and he can die young so he doesn't have to go on like this." sounds really serious. My BF got like this after his Dad died (but not as dramatic, just unable to function really) and he got 8 weeks compassionate leave (paid). Even if your H could get just a couple of weeks, maybe that would give him a rest from the madness in his head and sounds like work is tipping him over the edge? Seriously, if this was in the UK, he'd be signed off, defo.

As for changing his mind about wanting to work things out and now wants space.. I'm sorry I cant advise there, I am so new to all this myself!! Dont want to hijack the asvice you were trying to ask for, so... anyone else got something to add for BA !??

Ali x