2) take a deep, hard look at yourself and think about what you were missing from your M that made you look elsewhere
3) you need to be up front about those needs with your H as he will need to know what you need from the M (and maybe you'll need to recognize that you can't get all those needs met in your M and that you either need to let them go, or find a non-threatening way to deal with them)
1- this will happen by the end of next week. This I am sticking with cuz I know it needs to happen for me to even start to try and get things better between H and I.
2- I have done this and there are several things. First and formost is that H have never supported me in any of the things that I do. I have pin pointed the event when things started to go down hill. It was when I mentioned that I wanted to head back to college to get my bachlors degree. It was met with great objection, and he made me feel like there was no way that I could ever accomplish anything. And for right now that is something that I have not brought up to him because he does not want to go back to the past. I was waiting to being that up in counseling. H has NEVER supported anything that I have wanted to do but I have always been the 'good little wife' and stood by and let him do what he wants to. I have never been really apprecated either, he always assumes that dinner will be done and laundry clean, even though we both work 40 plus hours a week and have numerous activties on top of run our D places. He never listens to anything that I have to say or my opinion on anything, its his way or the highway, if you know what I mean. He is ALWAYS right. But I have figure out one thing, when I am right he stops discussing the problem with me. 3- H and I have had a couple good talks and I think he knows what is missing. But it still has not sunk in.
Now as for telling I am still not sure when that is going to happen, I figured that would be something that we will need to cover in C. My C says its up to me when I say anything.
