The problem I see with stating "boundaries" in a direct, upfront way is that he may feel controlled. Could you maybe propose an agreement? Say to him that you know he has been working hard and must be tired, so you'd like to give him a couple of nights off from childcare, but you were wondering if he'd mind if you and D1 had an evening just for the "girls" and maybe you'd also like to get out on your own one afternoon or evening. So that the seed is planted that you will share the parenting duties. Or, maybe another approach would be to say that you know he would probably like some quality time with just him and boys and how would he like to handle that? If he's like my H he may prefer not to get into specific plans. . .
me: 47 H: 48 he has 2 grown sons M 1995(my 1st, his 3rd) hit iceberg 6/07 S 9/26/07 before now
