Mrs. Cac But for me they are real. I have no doubt they are real for you.
I have had my own personal list of things that are real for me from FOO (limiter resources) that seem like a big deal to me but to other people, it is a non-issue. Most of my things fall in the area of conservation vs. over use/squandering of resources/time.
I also remember some of the boys in the group home having fairly extreme sensitivities/likes/aversions. That is another group of the population that I don't want to consider right now.
Me not having much growing up and being in the Army, where you did or else (both places), caused me to see what a sensitivity was, verses a like/dislike.
I also compared student's lives while I was going to college. Some had very little resources and a lot of responsibilities while others has plenty of resources and the students were able bodied/well educated as individuals, had people helping them with their college lessons.
I was thinking, the ones that needed help had the least amount of help and the ones that should do OK on their own, had help.
Maybe that is different than being sensitive but it relates to balancing needs, wants, and resources to me.
the good news is that since I've been confronting some of my other issues, the sensitivities aren't as much of an issue as they used to be. That is wonderful to hear.
... when a person is unhappy I think the sensitivities take a place front and center. They color everything. I know that to be the case.
Maybe BB is searching for something and that is why she buys things all the time. In BB's case, advertising creates a want in her mind. Advertising drives so much of BB's wants.
Of course, now I want to buy stuff for S4, but I try to be sensible about it. I was thinking about you being a grandmother just now. You might be most grand parents; buying things they wished they had money for when their kid/s was/were little. It is fun. Just a heads-up thought.
I try to corral my desire to buy him stuff into buying books for him, because I figure he can't have too many books. I don't remember much about being 4. I do remember 5/6/7/8 and it was cars, trucks, and trains I wanted.
One of my friends got a Bible of all things from his grand parents when he was 6. We just looked at each other and said "how dumb,“ but that is how some 6 yr. old’s think.
I don't remember anyone reading to or with me till I went to school so your situation is different.
About scrutinizing your posts, I see why you do it. You have Cac to consider. Your educational history implies you have the skills to write well, so you want to live up to that standard.
What to say and what not to post, is something that varies with different people. Sometimes I put too much detail in my posts and to some it might look like I am disloyal to BB or I expose the black sheep part of myself. Then sometimes I think about posting some information and think, "will someone think I am bragging/complaining?" No, better leave that out.
Then there is a vague social rule to disclose about the same amount of information as others do but not until some unspecified time limit. I don’t have that task mastered as BB tells me I am clue less about what to and what not to say.
I have the cloth washer finally going again (error codes frequently) so have to attend to that chore.
Keep posting. It is OK to not be perfect.
Look at me, 64 and still I don't have all this R stuff down pat. The good news is I havent been on either TV program, Cheaters or Cops.
Just wanted to agree with everyone that your posts, opinions and comments are definitely worthwhile. Also I wanted to say that I can understand how "attacked" you might feel because I feel the same way at times with some posts and I'm not even LD!! I think we just have to remember that all these guys that complain, including Cemar!, are just processing a lot of pain which is bound to come out as anger at time.
Lou,
As far as the sensitivity thing, I think at the least you have 2 separate issues with BB. Sensitivity is one issue and the complaining and being a princess is another issue. Compare the light/sound/etc. sensitivity to something that seems more concrete to you - having an allergy maybe? Some people with allergies are quiet about them and just avoid what they are allergic to quietly. Others are more dramatic and vocal about their allergies and how "sensitive" everyone has to be about the allergy.
I happen to have some sensitivity to noise and other stuff. But I am not a princess about them. (Although I do occasionally whine to Raven when I'm in the airport feeling exhausted and just SICK and tired of the constant noise! I do apologize for my whinyness so am I forgiven??)
One of my friends got a Bible of all things from his grand parents when he was 6. We just looked at each other and said "how dumb," but that is how some 6 yr. old's think.
I don't remember anyone reading to or with me till I went to school so your situation is different.
Raven's son is 5, loves sports and cars and loves being read to and loves getting books from the school library. I think being read to definitely makes a difference.
I have the cloth washer finally going again (error codes frequently) so have to attend to that chore.
I sent an e-mail to a friend asking if she's aware of any electronic issues with the control panel front loading washers. Do you know the date code of the machine?
But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus
In BB's case, advertising creates a want in her mind. Advertising drives so much of BB's wants.
I hear you. Advertising is so pervasive and so many people get sucked in. I think it's very damaging to our society.
I was thinking about you being a grandmother just now. You might be most grand parents; buying things they wished they had money for when their kid/s was/were little.
I think my mother is like that with S4. I try to be sensible for money reasons, but also because it's not good for kids to have so many toys that they don't know what to play with or to think that they can have whatever they want. It's hard today because there is so much out there. So I try to keep toy buying to Christmas/birthday and maybe a little surprise once in a while. But I pick up books throughout the year.
I don't remember much about being 4. I do remember 5/6/7/8 and it was cars, trucks, and trains I wanted.
I don't remember much about being 4 either. Those early years all blend together, maybe because I didn't attend nursery or K. S4 loves his cars and trucks, for sure, but he really loves books too. He is starting to read and loves getting new books. I need to get him his own library card. Going to the library is not something I do much because I prefer to buy books so I can take my time reading and have them for reference. But for a kid it's perfect.
I don't remember anyone reading to or with me till I went to school so your situation is different.
I'm sorry to hear that. I wish all parents could read to their kids. There isn't anything quite like it. I was lucky that my mother read to me. Interesting though...she read to my brother just the same but he isn't a reader at all. I guess it depends on the individual. I always loved school and he couldn't wait to get out.
About scrutinizing your posts, I see why you do it. You have Cac to consider.
Yes I do censor myself because of cac. But maybe that's not a completely bad thing because on here I tend to focus on the positive because obviously I'm not going to come on here and rail on C.
Your educational history implies you have the skills to write well, so you want to live up to that standard.
That is a big part of it. Because I've always been so concerned about what people think of me that carries over into my writing. I struggle to recall information and don't retain what I read very well and that certainly impacts my confidence. And there are some REALLY intelligent people here!
Once in a while I write a quick post and submit, but mostly I'm reading and re-reading and taking things out and then I start thinking, "oh, nobody wants to read this," so I just delete it. But I'm not going to do that anymore. You're right, it is OK to not be perfect. In fact, it's not possible.
I didn't attend nursery school or kindergarten either. I started first grade when I was 5. My mother's parents were immigrants and I'm not sure my mother had ever heard of kindergarten.
My mother also read to me. Thank God for that (and thank Mama, too). To this day I love to be read to. When someone gives me a card or I give them a card, I ask them to read it out loud to me. Sometimes my bf's 18 year old daughter reads the funnies out loud to me (describing the pictures), and it's SO much fun. (Cheap thrills!) I love audiobooks, too. The experience of listening to the 22-hour audiobook "All the King's Men" was sublime. No matter how broke I've been, I've always bought books, even if it meant one paperback the day before payday.
I also loved school, maybe you loved it for the same reasons I did: school was an orderly place where the rules were clear, they were easy to follow, people didn't yell at each other, there wasn't that "tension" in the air that there was at home. Teachers always liked me because I could sit still for a long time.
You and I both ought to practice leaving typos and misspellings in our posts instead of editing them... hmmm... not sure I can do that. I'll think about it.
My mother sent my brother to K because she thought he needed it. Money was an issue for my parents so she didn't send me. She thought I would be ready for first grade without it, which I was.
I don't enjoy being read to now because I have trouble focusing when the input is only auditory. I did fine in school because I took lots of notes. Somehow the act of putting words on paper allowed me to focus and helped with my retention. I often used to write out my notes a second time at night. I really enjoy reading aloud to S4. I often read things that I find interesting to cac as well.
I can't get anything out of an auditory book unfortunately. I tried listening to tapes in the car when I commuted to work and I would just daydream and couldn't stay focused on what I was hearing. That's great that it's such a wonderful experience for you.
Why did I love school? Interesting question and one that I've never really pondered. The teachers always liked me too because I could sit still and I was quiet and compliant. My first grade teacher was a sweet and kind young woman and I still remember attending her wedding ceremony the day after school let out for the summer.
I suppose I liked it for some of the same reasons you did. I'm sure it also had to do with getting the teacher's approval. I just loved the schoolwork and even "played" school when I was out for the summer. Then when I was in the 4th grade my father told me I could go to college and be a teacher like our neighbor had done, which was not so common in our blue collar part of town. Well I thought that was just the greatest thing and I decided right then that I would go to college and be a teacher. I started pursuing music ed in college but I changed my mind midway through and switched programs. I still toy with the idea of teaching, though, in some way.
Leaving typos and misspellings? That is a scary thought. Maybe I'll just not do the final proofing of this post and just hit submit.
Fearless As far as the sensitivity thing, I think at the least you have 2 separate issues with BB. Sensitivity is one issue and the complaining and being a princess is another issue. I went with the sensitivity designation but to me having a narrow range in which she can operate, is also a description.
(Although I do occasionally whine to Raven when I'm in the airport feeling exhausted and just SICK and tired of the constant noise! I think that is a valid reason.
I also loved school, maybe you loved it for the same reasons I did: school was an orderly place where the rules were clear, they were easy to follow, people didn't yell at each other, there wasn't that "tension" in the air that there was at home. Teachers always liked me because I could sit still for a long time.
Wow, your school was awesome. No yelling, no tension in the air, and I assume no assault and battery either? Or maybe that was just because you were a girl
a fine and enviable madness, this delusion that all questions have answers, and nothing is beyond the reach of a strong left arm.
Mrs Cac The teachers always liked me too because I could sit still and I was quiet and compliant. Same here but outside there was a lot of bullying in some schools I went to.
I went to 5 schools in 5th. grade. At one school in Flordia, the boys wanted to fight the Civil War over again. I was from the North.
The next 2 schools were wonderful. At school 4, the teacher threatened to put kids hands in the school's furnace if we didn't tow his line. I went there 6 weeks and it rained most of the time so no recess.
School #5, had some tough kids (pricipal's kid and friends?)that were a poblem, but only sometimes.
I suppose if one reads well, that helps. Math was easy but the reading, not my cup of tea.
So do kids that read well have a better time at school?
So do kids that read well have a better time at school?
Lou
Reader here, and yes, I think so. I loved being a student. I excelled at it. So much knowledge. So much time. I remember the excitement of discovering something new, making a new connection, a new text, a new way of looking at things. Good days.
The good news is I havent been on either TV program, Cheaters or Cops. 
You're right, it is OK to not be perfect. In fact, it's not possible.
