Neecy,, There are no real good or bad ones they are a guide to a possible outcome... They make you aware...So you can act accordingly.
I am going to chose to take this as a BIG positive… I could turn it around and say “ She was just calling to check up on me so I would not come home unexpectedly and catch her……….
Libra September 23 - October 22 Focusing too much on your future only keeps you from appreciating where you are.
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Wow mine is kind of interesting isn't it? I have spent a lot of time worrying whether my husband is just prentending that he wants to be here and there is another shoe to drop. I have a quote on my wall at work that says "It is hard to see the sunshine when you spend you whole life looking for the storm"
Taking it as a positive is good advice, the other day after I attempted to do a 180 with my husband and no longer contact him at work or on his cell, he called while I was in the bath he ended up calling 3 more times and my cell phone twice. It gave me butterflies and I was really happy and thought it was a good sign then those bad thoughts started creeping in that he was just worried about where I was because he still thinks I am going to confront the OW(this is all very fresh). We do a lot of damage to ourselves with our internal dialogue.
Me~34 H~38 D6.5
EA/PA-DEC.07
Moved out~Apr.13,08 Sep. Papers~Dec.7,08 No contact order ~Dec.9,08 and again October 13, 2009
Well good thing I went out for a few beers before I got home... I was so excited with that phone call I was ready to run home, rip my clothes off and make mad passionate love to my wife... Having the beers gave me time to settle down... when I got home W was not there....no note.....it was past the time she needed to pick up son from school... about 15 min's after I got home I got a phone call from W. she said she took son to store to buy a game and should be home shortly.... ok another positive.. she called to let me know what was going on... when she did get home it was a little awkward at first I wanted to say something or give her a hug but did not have the opportunity.... soon we were back to roommates again... The rest of the evening went well... she asked about showing the slides from her trip years ago to on of the ghost towns I am planning on visiting during my Vegas trip on Saturday... I told her I was going to call nephew to see if he wanted to go play pool but I don't have too. She said that's ok we can watch them on Sunday... I told her let me call him because he has been sick and may not want to go out... I called and he wants to go out so we will watch the slide show on Sunday. I did manage to go into her room before I went to bed and leaned down and gave her a kiss and told her thank you because you made my day today. She asked "what did I do?" I just said "you just made my day" and I left....
Even though I didn't get laid I do think this was a forward movement...Most of the time when I see her coming towards me if I start back towards her she backs off again.....I wanted to but I think if I would have been all over her this may have caused her to retreat again... Well I better get back to work Will be back soon...
Dr Love
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
I know the feeling. I am absolutely no where near to you, H, on the road to progress, with regards to my own R -- and yet there are times when I just want to take my W in my arms, plant a deep soul-kiss on her lips and enfold her in my arms to embrace her for eternity...
...but she is so distant from me now...
Baby steps, brother... Baby steps...
It is so very remarkable how they have all added up for you. Your patience and sensitivity has proven very positive. Keep up the great work.
thanks but I am getting tired. don't know how much longer I can wait...It's pretty sad for a 50 year old guy to get all excited over a little phone call... Thought it was too good to be true... I am in a beter place that I was a year ago... but hell we didn't evern date for a year before we moved in togeather... this "dating " is taken way to long with only little crumbs once in a while....
H
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
I did manage to go into her room before I went to bed and leaned down and gave her a kiss and told her thank you because you made my day today. She asked "what did I do?" I just said "you just made my day" and I left....
Nice Husband !! I feel this is a real positive on many levels. First, you showed her some affection with the kiss...some validation with the 'thank you'...and then a little intrigue with not telling her what she did. I'm sure she went to bed with a little warmer feeling in her heart and some questioning in her mind as to what she did to cause a positive reaction from you. I would not be a bit surprised if you start seeing more of this from her.
I'm not sure what this slide show is all about, but it sounds like she is trying to reach out to you a bit...sharing something of her with you. My advice would be to make some time to view it with her and show a genuine interest in it...could go a long way.
Good luck Dr. Love, and don't let my IC get on you too much over here. His posts have been tame so far but he's got a little wild side in him
