So I'm ready to do what it takes to enforce my boundaries, for my own sanity and peace of mind if nothing else. I started down this path because these conversations with WAW are driving me crazy. One minute she's almost ready to try again and the next she thinks it's a choice between a relationship and being fulfilled in her career (she's overwhelming herself with work & grad program), all the while ignoring the fact that she had PA and it is still EA.
The A aside, her inability to balance ambition with her emotional life is unhealthy and already affected our R once. She snapped out of it before, which is what makes me hopeful she'll snap out of it again. But I can't be in a R with someone who will put M on line every time she wants to further her career. So this is where I put my foot down - she needs to recognize her problems and deal with them (she has started), and she needs to end it completely with OM. I guess the steps she's made are positive, but since her swinging back and forth is affecting me so much, I'm going to detach.
So, I need to regain my GALing, but I'm curious to know what your firm boundaries were and what you did to "shine a path" toward your M.
