Husbands really should not be at the same level of importance in a womans life as parents or children. She did not make ANY vows in front of God to any of them. That should put you at a level ABOVE all others in her life. Granted, she may be thinking that your going to survive and her Mom is not, and this could cloud the situation. But she has seen her Mom, and she could get other family members to pick up the slack and come back to you.