Please don't call yourself pathetic lwb. We ALL have these feelings. I think they're normal. It's your M for Godsake! It's not just some quickie relationship that you can get over quickly. You put your heart/soul into it and you have 2 BEAUTIFUL children because of it. I feel like I need space from my H right now but I'll tell you what, it's going to rip me apart the day I look up and see his things gone! Yes, we (all of us) had problems in our M, but we also thought that we'd be together forever with these S's and they walked on us with what seems like no regard or respect for our feelings.
I struggle every day with trying to figure out just what "loving detachment" really means. How do I do that. How do I lovingly detach and not be a doormat. I want my H to know I still care, but get angry waking up seeing him laying on the couch with his phone laying next to him.
I'm SOOO glad that you're getting time home with your d's. How fun. I told you early in the week that I was going to call you soon. I almost did last night and H came home. So, I was thinking about you. I WILL call soon.
You have such incredible support here. Nocode is right. We believe in you.
BIG BIG HUGS to you today.
SueS
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
