Hi zuzu - I am a LDW. My H would be ecstatic about 2x a week! My H also has difficulty accepting all of his responsiblities. Generally, he's very good - but sometimes the "I want time for me and my hobbies" clearly rings out.
Recently, we've started taking turns intiating LM.
As for what I call his struggle between the want to be married with kid v. want to be single and have what I want when I want syndrome, I've accepted that he will never be 100% the kind of H I had expected in a M. I realize I'm probably not 100% the kind of wife he wanted either. I think kids take a far greater toll than either of us imagined.
My H encourages me to get out and do things on my own and/or with friends. I do not do this enough, but it helps when I do. I have lots of other stressors happening right now, so I often don't have time for me. But it is important to make time. Do you do that?
My H is 50. Possibly suffering from a MLC. Our first counselor told me he had narcissistic tendencies but no disorders.
I kept track of good and bad days for a while and had far more good than bad, so I'm still trying to work on the M.
Not sure if any of that helps you, but I could feel your pain. The low times are very difficult. Like I said, I have lots of stuff going on - I try to take things a day at a time.
