Here I go again...

[ntl]

Hiya,

I'm not really sure how to respond to your post except to say that if you really want your marriage to work, you really need to do the following:

1) cease all contact with the OM immediately

2) take a deep, hard look at yourself and think about what you were missing from your M that made you look elsewhere

3) you need to be up front about those needs with your H as he will need to know what you need from the M (and maybe you'll need to recognize that you can't get all those needs met in your M and that you either need to let them go, or find a non-threatening way to deal with them)

This is what most of us who are the LBS's need from our spouse's. And in my opinion, it's the only way we can try to build anything real and lasting from what we've got.

Personally, I also think you should be up front with your H about what happened between you and the OM. JMO, I am sure others have differing ideas on that.

Regards,

ntl