lwb, you know I will support you with anything you choose here. I guess I am concerned because you are NOT sleeping. you are very affected by his presence and from his constant disrespect. as an outsider, its easy for me to say that I do advocate separation for you because you have given this a very good shot, trying to heal while living together. but he is not looking to heal right now, lwb. he will not go to counseling, he will not consider retrouville, he will not consider even committing to working together to try to save the marriage.
its eating away at you. and your h is NOT changing, not in the slightest. he may have broken it off with ow, but he is stll playing the blame game, and has already shown that fidelity is not high on his list of priorities.
again, I am not telling you what to do, I don't mean to, I guess I'm just worried about you.
take care of yourself. I don't care where he is as long as you are doing that. and if you need a sleep aid in order to get some rest while he is still living there, please go that route. lots of folks here have gone that route for a little while.
(((HUGS)))
mwah! love you, my lwb.
Last edited by SallyM; 01/31/0808:12 PM.
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
I am thinking of you .. he is a spoiled brat and yes he is upset he can't have both.
Let him wonder what you are doing.. He deserves to be on edge about you for a change! You are a great person and absoultely don't deserve any of this, he is a moron for what he is doing.
Its isn't healthy for you the way things are, I think space and quiet is what you need, away from him and his drama.
Im hoping you have a better day and I hope you had fun with Hope...
tal
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
I noticed some of his clothes and shoes (and work uniforms) are missing from his closet today.......
Looks like I am getting what I want (him leaving) and now it sucks. I know something needed to happen, possibly us separating, but I tell ya, it doesn't hurt any less. Pathetic LWB misses him already..... I will not call nor ask, but will be kind and loving when I see him.
Didn't want to cloud my whole post with gloom, so there you go: We got 10 inches of snow, the girls are off school, they are having so much fun, we have already been out for hours and its not even noon yet. The tooth fairy came last night, I woke to my beautiful D6 with a completely different smile (sans top tooth). My silly D3 is watching cartoons, tucked in, yelling for hot choc-wit......life IS good. I am blessed.
You are right, Mark. How about kind and respectful? I actually feel so distant from him, since he seems to be pushing me away, it shouldn't be hard to detach.
