Sory about the leg pains and the bad dreams. I get bad dreams often too. It is hard not to believe them, but they are just dreams, and you have to put them out of your mind. They have nothing to do with reality. As for "love darts", I'm with IC, leave them alone. I am a big one for the sarcastic zinger, and it was one of the sore points of my marriage. I had to be taught to notice the nice things my husband did and comment on them instead. It made a big improvement in our lives together.
It really sounds like your wife is making an effort to be thoughtful towards you. The heater is one example, she's cooking you nice dinners, and she's making you a birthday party. I think she is ready for you to try for more intimacy. She knows where men and women being nice to each other leads. My gut says keep fixing the relationship and go for better communication, before you try talking about OM. That's not going to be your happiest conversation. You are on the verge of a great breakthrough. Don't muck it up now with last year's garbage.
