Since you've never been an LD woman, I find it interesting that you presume to know what LS should or should not do to kick-start her sex drive.
LS,
At first you may need to "act as if" and you may need to use whatever you've got to be able to act as if. It sounded like you were disappointed that during sex with your H the other night you weren't feeling the desire. What I've found is that the more regular sex I have with cac the more bonded I feel with him. In the past I usually didn't feel desire when the encounter started, but that has been changing. But it takes time. It didn't happen overnight. And it goes hand in hand with the belief that a good sex life is very important for myself, my H and our marriage.
IMO, if you are working on the R and your H is too (and the fact that he's taking anger management classes means that he is taking responsibility for his behavior and that's great) and you keep making regular sex a priority, the emotional bonding will come. You might not trust your H right now in an emotionally intimate way because of his past behavior, so you wouldn't be feeling emotionally bonded to him. You can't make yourself feel emotionally bonded if the R hasn't supported that.
