How do you feel about women who seem to be semi-purposefully dating only men who went through college on football scholarships even though she has no interest in the activity and it is just a coincidence that coaches pick players in the size she likes? Would you be less disapproving if you knew that she made excellent layered chip dips?
You're kidding, right? Of course I think these hypothetical women are just fine
Seriously I am not saying I think you have to have the same interests. I think it's okay to even laugh a little and poke fun at the other's interest. I am talking about women and men that seriously DISDAIN their spouses hobbies/interests.
For example:
Woman talking to friend about weekend plans: My H has some sort of plans for Sunday night. Is there some sort of game going on? Oh but did you hear Tom Petty will be on TV Sunday night!!
(Can be said ironically or not)
That's just fine IMHO.
Woman talking to friend about weekend plans: H is watching the Super Bowl on Sunday. What a stupid sport. Why can't he just grow up? It's like he has no life. And don't get me started about all the time he wastes on that idiotic Fantasy Football. I think I'll just go out shopping and spend a bunch of money.
It's the JUDGING and deriding of your spouse's interests that bothers me. I just don't like it either direction. I don't think you have to have the same interests or that you need to fawn all over your spouse about their interest but I think tearing them and their interest down is not healthy for a good relationship. Assuming it's not a destructive habit like gambling, drug and alcohol addiction, spending more than you make, arson, etc., let them have some freedom.
But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus
