I believe Ellie is posting with compassion. I have read her posts to others over the last years and she is insightful, fair and kind. Albeit, I'm not sure that she is totally up on your situation, I know she is not attacking you.
I have said to you often that the key for your recovery and survival is dealing with your own issues. I want to respectfully point out to you that your reaction to what Ellie said was harsh. I got the impression that you felt you were being personally attacked. Maybe even challenged? I wonder why???? Could it be that someone questioned your ability to "fix" the situation and it struck a nerve? I think this is something you should think on as it probably carries over into your business life. We can talk more about that later.
And, Ellie, I know that it appears there are a lot of "cheerleaders" here for Frank. Some of us have spent a lot of time with him. He is a mess in a lot of ways, but many, many people see value in him and have been drawn to help him. And honestly, after listening to his life for 2 years, I firmly believe this marriage should not be saved. If that gets me booted off this board, so be it. Yes, he needs to detach. He really needs to be physically separated from his W but that is not possible at the moment. He needs to stop taking his w's temp every 2 minutes. Agreed. There IS sometimes a place for anger in these situations. And, it is way past time for Frank to be angry, IMO. I respect what you have to say and I believe you gave Frank some things to think about. I'm just not sure if you are up on the whole situation.
Sorry for hijacking.
Frank, check your email.
Spitty
Always do right. This will gratify some people, and astonish the rest. Mark Twain
